Story time: Don't stay in a bad situation

This is going to be kind of a long post. Not too long haha, but kind of long. Oh and the sunset photo, I know it's random but I wanted to make the post a little bit less depressing...

Soo, once upon a time, I had a job. I was really happy about getting the job because it was my first "legit" job. I thought that it would help "get my foot in the door", make new friends, learn new skills outside of music, build my confidence, etc.

During my first two weeks of work, I shortly realized that my work situation was not "normal". My boss would call me at random hours outside of work, would insult me, ask me to work on holidays and weekends even though I was a part-time employee (who could not work overtime), made me perform tasks that were unrelated to my job description (like picking up dry cleaning, or going to the bike shop, or cleaning under their bathroom sink!!!). I let it slide because I wanted to prove to my parents, and mostly to myself that I could handle it. People have it much worse so I shouldn't even be complaining...

A couple of months in, my boss' real character began to reveal itself. They yelled at me for things that were absolutely outside of my control, they were demeaning, selfish, manipulative. I was given harsher treatment than all of my co-workers. My boss was super impatient with me, very flippant, ignored me when I gave them reminders, but then proceeded to yell at me if I did not give them enough. They accused me on a weekly basis for not doing my job well enough, and not working hard enough, even though I was one of their best employees (according to my co-workers and the staff in the company). Oh, and my boss was racist AND sexist. Cherry on top.

I had to take my work home with me, and periodically check the emails, which sucked. Every time they sent me text messages or called me, I would have to respond quickly, or else I would get an earful for not being prompt.

After 6 months of that nightmare, I quit. Thank God I did, because my mind was going crazy. I was so stressed out, always on edge. Always feeling dread when my phone buzzed or rang. Always fearing that my boss was going to yell at me for something else. And the kicker is, that on my last day, my boss did not thank me, did not wish me well, did not say bye, nothing. A few days later I get a text from them asking for a favor. I was livid. It was like a smack in the face, thanks for nothing!

I think that's enough ranting for today, but the tldr, moral of story is: if you feel like you're in a bad situation or relationship, one that is toxic, abusive, manipulative, etc, please do not feel like you "have to" stick around. Some situations are tough, and sometimes it's necessary to push through, use your own judgement. But if you ever get to the point of feeling like everything's "your fault", or that you have to tread on thin ice in order to avoid abuse, or please the other person, you're in a bad situation. Life is tough, and sometimes it's hard to find an escape, but if you can leave, do it. Don't stay in a bad situation to prove to yourself that you're strong enough, because sometimes, these things can ruin you. If you are unable to leave, try to seek help. Talk to people, talk to a counselor, do whatever you need to do to receive help!!!!

Anyway, sorry for this long-ass post. But let me know your thoughts. Thanks for reading.