Single vs. Taken

Spring is officially here. The weather is warmer, and couples are invading the streets, rubbing their relationship rainbow happiness in our single faces. Suckers...

Nahh I'm just kidding you guys. I'm not bitter (I promise haha), but it's interesting how the world treats single people versus taken people. They look at you, a single person, as incomplete. You don't have your life completely together unless you have someone by your side. And I get it, people naturally desire companionship, and sometimes you need to make changes in yourself in order to attract the right people. But if you're a well adjusted single person, no scratch that, even if you're NOT a well adjusted single person, why does your relationship status gotta put a value on you?

People tell you stop looking even though your friend met her husband through years of online dating. They tell you to "put yourself out there" even though your cousin met his girlfriend after bumping into her at the supermarket. They tell you to stop being so picky, because settling is better than being single. Being with someone is better than being with no one. Maybe being single is less fulfilling, maybe it's less fun, but even if those things were true, why is your worth as a person diminished because you're single?

In the church, there's this unspoken hierarchy; if you're married, you're a "more whole" Christian than the single Christians. You made that mysterious change in your life/yourself, that single people haven't figured out yet, and because of that God sprinkled that magic soulmate dust on you, and granted you the gift of marriage. Y'all don't know how much that irks me, that way of thinking, it's not even biblical...and I'm sure it's like that in many other religions.

A perfect example of this in real life: If a guy asks you out, and you say "no, I'm married" he backs off (most of the time), but if you say "no thanks, not interested", they feel threatened. Why?? I have the right to reject you as a taken person, but not as a single....

Anyway, this is sort of a weird rant, and I promise I'll get back to the normal stuff the next post. But let me know what you guys think, what your experiences were like as a single vs. taken, etc.