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Friday, February 26, 2016

Story time: Don't stay in a bad situation

This is going to be kind of a long post. Not too long haha, but kind of long. Oh and the sunset photo, I know it's random but I wanted to make the post a little bit less depressing...

Soo, once upon a time, I had a job. I was really happy about getting the job because it was my first "legit" job. I thought that it would help "get my foot in the door", make new friends, learn new skills outside of music, build my confidence, etc.

During my first two weeks of work, I shortly realized that my work situation was not "normal". My boss would call me at random hours outside of work, would insult me, ask me to work on holidays and weekends even though I was a part-time employee (who could not work overtime), made me perform tasks that were unrelated to my job description (like picking up dry cleaning, or going to the bike shop, or cleaning under their bathroom sink!!!). I let it slide because I wanted to prove to my parents, and mostly to myself that I could handle it. People have it much worse so I shouldn't even be complaining...

A couple of months in, my boss' real character began to reveal itself. They yelled at me for things that were absolutely outside of my control, they were demeaning, selfish, manipulative. I was given harsher treatment than all of my co-workers. My boss was super impatient with me, very flippant, ignored me when I gave them reminders, but then proceeded to yell at me if I did not give them enough. They accused me on a weekly basis for not doing my job well enough, and not working hard enough, even though I was one of their best employees (according to my co-workers and the staff in the company). Oh, and my boss was racist AND sexist. Cherry on top.

I had to take my work home with me, and periodically check the emails, which sucked. Every time they sent me text messages or called me, I would have to respond quickly, or else I would get an earful for not being prompt.

After 6 months of that nightmare, I quit. Thank God I did, because my mind was going crazy. I was so stressed out, always on edge. Always feeling dread when my phone buzzed or rang. Always fearing that my boss was going to yell at me for something else. And the kicker is, that on my last day, my boss did not thank me, did not wish me well, did not say bye, nothing. A few days later I get a text from them asking for a favor. I was livid. It was like a smack in the face, thanks for nothing!

I think that's enough ranting for today, but the tldr, moral of story is: if you feel like you're in a bad situation or relationship, one that is toxic, abusive, manipulative, etc, please do not feel like you "have to" stick around. Some situations are tough, and sometimes it's necessary to push through, use your own judgement. But if you ever get to the point of feeling like everything's "your fault", or that you have to tread on thin ice in order to avoid abuse, or please the other person, you're in a bad situation. Life is tough, and sometimes it's hard to find an escape, but if you can leave, do it. Don't stay in a bad situation to prove to yourself that you're strong enough, because sometimes, these things can ruin you. If you are unable to leave, try to seek help. Talk to people, talk to a counselor, do whatever you need to do to receive help!!!!

Anyway, sorry for this long-ass post. But let me know your thoughts. Thanks for reading.


  1. That's such a bad situation! There's no way I could stick at something like that now if I had a boss treating me that way. Thankfully, I'm starting a new job next week and everyone I've met so far seems nice.

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  2. Oh my goodness. I'm so glad you quit. You are far better off jobless than dealing with that! You are worth so much more than that!

  3. That is ridiculous. I am so glad that you had the courage and strength to leave.

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  4. That is ridiculous. I am so glad that you had the courage and strength to leave.

    Nat • Dignifiable

  5. Upon reading this post, i feel so lucky that I get to work from home without the stress of having rude bosses. And I'm glad that you have the courage to leave. So proud of you. :)

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  6. Such an important post, well done on leaving <3 onto bigger and better things! xx


  7. I think you did the right thing quitting. Sometimes, we stay in a toxic environment because we feel helpless when we don't. It seem as if it's the only path we got, but it really isn't if we find other ways to forge happiness. Thank you for sharing your story with us. x


  8. I think this is one of the most important lessons to be learnt in life. It's so hard to let go sometimes. I'm sorry you had to go through this, but well done on getting out!!

  9. I'm so glad you quit! I think if a job or a relationship is hurting you in anyway, letting it do that is self harm if it's in your power to walk away but you don't. I've never had a real job (cos freelancer) so I never had to go through it but I'm sure you'll find another one v soon and it'd be the best job everrrr!!

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  10. yay for quitting! quitting isn't always a bad thing! :D
    that's the thing i hate most about jobs. it might seem great at first because it's just the beginning, but once you stay for a while, you start to see the real shit that's going on and sometimes it's not what you want anymore or it isn't a nice environment to be around in anymore. time to move onto bigger and better things!


  11. I can't believe that happeened to you - awful! So glad you had the sense to stand up for yourself by walking away.


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