Single vs. Taken

Spring is officially here. The weather is warmer, and couples are invading the streets, rubbing their relationship rainbow happiness in our single faces. Suckers...

Nahh I'm just kidding you guys. I'm not bitter (I promise haha), but it's interesting how the world treats single people versus taken people. They look at you, a single person, as incomplete. You don't have your life completely together unless you have someone by your side. And I get it, people naturally desire companionship, and sometimes you need to make changes in yourself in order to attract the right people. But if you're a well adjusted single person, no scratch that, even if you're NOT a well adjusted single person, why does your relationship status gotta put a value on you?

People tell you stop looking even though your friend met her husband through years of online dating. They tell you to "put yourself out there" even though your cousin met his girlfriend after bumping into her at the supermarket. They tell you to stop being so picky, because settling is better than being single. Being with someone is better than being with no one. Maybe being single is less fulfilling, maybe it's less fun, but even if those things were true, why is your worth as a person diminished because you're single?

In the church, there's this unspoken hierarchy; if you're married, you're a "more whole" Christian than the single Christians. You made that mysterious change in your life/yourself, that single people haven't figured out yet, and because of that God sprinkled that magic soulmate dust on you, and granted you the gift of marriage. Y'all don't know how much that irks me, that way of thinking, it's not even biblical...and I'm sure it's like that in many other religions.

A perfect example of this in real life: If a guy asks you out, and you say "no, I'm married" he backs off (most of the time), but if you say "no thanks, not interested", they feel threatened. Why?? I have the right to reject you as a taken person, but not as a single....

Anyway, this is sort of a weird rant, and I promise I'll get back to the normal stuff the next post. But let me know what you guys think, what your experiences were like as a single vs. taken, etc. 

Brooklyn Heights

Sorry for the lack of posts, but I'm here now, and that's what counts right?

So yesterday I went over to Brooklyn with my friends for an engagement shoot. It's been a bit long overdue but I must say that I'm satisfied with the photos. I wish I brought one of my other lenses with me but ehh, what I can I do? I just hope that they don't find my photos atrocious hahaha.

After I was done with their photos, I made sure to snap a few photos for myself. The coast of Brooklyn has the best view of Manhattan, no wonder the rent here is so flippin' expensive. I remember when I was growing up, nobody wanted to live in Brooklyn. When people said that they lived in Brooklyn, they always got a  response like "ohh...." which is translation for "You poor thing...". It's a complete turn-around now, it's funny how things change in such a short amount of time.

Anyway, hope you guys are doing well.
I really should be in bed right now....

Central Park ventures

On Wednesday I took a walk through Central Park, around golden hour, which is the best hour. All of the trees looked so beautiful, there were barely any people, it was glorious. Unfortunately I did not have my camera with me, but today, I took a trek again, and snapped some photos of the ridiculous beautifulness. It rained for most of the day, so the golden hour today wasn't as dramatic as it was yesterday's, but Lawd have mercy, Central Park is just too pretty. There are so many parts of the park that I have yet to discover, and I've been living in nyc for 23 years. Shameful. 

Good news, I got my scholarship information, I am officially a Masters student (well in September I will be). Am I scared, hell yeah, but regret is always worse than fear, so I might as well suck it up, be thankful that I have this opportunity, and keep on keepin' on.
Talk to y'all later, next week is gonna be busyyy

Car rides

On Friday, I had to go to Queens to practice organ at a church I've been subbing for for the past month. I usually go on my own (the commute from my house is about 2 hours), but thankfully my mom offered to drive me. We don't really drive much because finding a parking spot in nyc is kind of a pain, but when we do, it's always a treat. Our car is a manual, and unfortunately I'm not so great at driving manual, or stick as I like to call it, so car trips are far and few between. 

We don't usually like driving through midtown because of the traffic but this time around she did, and I snapped some pics with my new Olympus Pen camera, from the back seat. NYC architecture is so diverse, yet they all blend in together very well. There is this one building though in midtown, which is about the same height as the Freedom tower, but the width of a toothpick. It's hideous, look it up, trust me, it looks terrible. Anyway, hope you all are doing well. Have a good weekend!